Why Teachers and Parents Complained Boy's don't Listen

Teachers and parents complained everywhere boys are not listening.

Why?

Because science says that when a boy grows "particularly approaching puberty, their ear canals undergo growth spurts then can cause a temporary form of deafness"*.

In the school" if a girl refuses to keep eye contact while the teacher berates her, a female teacher will continue the reprimand. If a boy refuses eye contact, many female teacher intuitively understand that he probably either can't her or is not listening, and will say 'look at me when i speak you' ". This is the reason "female teachers have been found to reprimand girls differently to boys"**. This is the reason why "female teacher have been found to reprimand girls differently to boys"*

Reference book

1. Allan and Barbara Pease, "Why men don't listen and women can't read maps" Manjul Publishing House Pvt. Ltd., Bhopal, India 2006(* page no. 31 and ** page no. 32)

Why Women Read between the lines or men can't

Allan and Babara Pease wrote very simple language, so i just copy what they wrote in their book. "Women have superior sensitivity in differentiating tone changes in voice volume and pitch. This enables them to hear emotional changes in children and adults. Consequently, for every man who can sing in tune, there are eight women who can do it, This is the ability goes a long way to explaining the women's phrase, 'Don't use that tone of voice with me!' "*

Why women has ability to read the lines and men can't?

Because in the past she played the role as a home-improvement committee, she needed a brain software for read between the line of adult, children and other women for creating better relationship. But in the past man played the role as a lunch-chaser and a hunter, so he didn't need for this work.

Reference Books:

1. John Gray "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus", HapperCollins Publishers, India (2008)
2. John Gary "Men, Women and relationship" 2nd edition, Hillsboro OR: Beyond Words (1993)
3. Allan and Barbara Pease, "Why men don't listen and women can't read maps" Manjul Publishing House Pvt. Ltd., Bhopal, India 2006(* page no. 30)

Feminine Character

Can you explain what is feminine character?

Feminine character means "love, communication, beauty and relationship"*.

Why?

Because " They spending a lot of time supporting, helping and nurturing"* each other. It means feminine character " is defined through their feeling and the quality of their relationship."*

Women like " living together in harmony, community and loving cooperation"*. They think "relationship is more important then work and technology"*. Communication is most important part of their life. "To share their personal feeling is much more important then achieving goals and success. Talking and relating to each other is the only source to feel good about herself."*

Women are inborn psychologist and very good counselor. So they are " involved in personal growth, spirituality and everything that can nurture life, healing and growth."**

They always "pride themselves in being considerate of the need and feeling of others"**. For women point of view " a sign of great love is to offer help and assistance to another"** without being asked." When women "care about someone, they freely point out what can be improved and suggest how to do it"**. It means in feminine characteristics " offering advice and constructive criticism is an act of love"** to show each other.

Her brain is programmed for ' How -do-I-Improve ther realtionship' .

Reference Books:

1. John Gray "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus", HapperCollins Publishers, India (2008)(* page no. 18 & ** page no. 19)
2. John Gary "Men, Women and relationship" 2nd edition, Hillsboro OR: Beyond Words (1993)
3. Allan and Barbara Pease, "Why men don't listen and women can't read maps" Manjul Publishing House Pvt. Ltd., Bhopal, India 2006.

Masculine Characters

Men and women are different, i understand. Can you explain, what is masculine character and what is feminine character?

Masculine characters means "power, competency, efficiency and achievement".* Men "are always doing things to prove themselves and develop their power and skills".*  It means masculine character "is defined through  their ability to achieve results".*

They like "outdoor activities such as hunting, fishing and racing cars"* rather than "romantic novels and self help books"* . They are "interested in 'objects' and 'things' "* such as "powerful cars, faster computers, gadgets, gizmos and new more powerful technology"* rather than "people and feelings"*.

Question is raised why "men are interested in objects and things?"*

Because these things "can help them express power by creating results and achieving their goals."*

Question is raised again why "achieving goal is very important"* for men?

Because "it is a way for him to prove his competence"* and "feel good about himself."* When he is " achieving these goals by himself not by someone else then he feel good about himself "*.

Men always wants "handle his problem on his own ways"**. So he "rarely talk about his problem"**.

Question is raised why men couldn't talk their problem?

Because he thoughts why i " involve someone else when i can do it by myself?"** So"he keep his problem to himself"**

Again question is raised "why he keeps his problem to himself"**?

Because in masculine characters dictionary talking about a problem means showing your weakness. And in the men world "talking about the problem means an invitation for advice?"**

When he can't solve his problem then he "will find someone he respects and then talk about his problem"**. Then other man "fell honored by the opportunity"** and give some advises. "This is his way for showing love and trying to help"** each other in the men world.

"A men brain is organised to evolute and understand objects, their relationship to other objects, spatial relevance, how it all works and solution to problems. His brain is programmed for a 'how-do-I-fix-it?' response of life. Men use this 'fix-it' criterion in their approach to almost everything they do."# So this is the reason why John Gray says men are called Mr. Fix-it.

Reference Books:

1. John Gray "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus", HapperCollins Publishers, India (2008)(* page no. 16 & ** page no. 17)
2. John Gary "Men, Women and relationship" 2nd edition, Hillsboro OR: Beyond Words (1993)
3. Allan and Barbara Pease, "Why men don't listen and women can't read maps" Manjul Publishing House Pvt. Ltd., Bhopal, India 2006.(# page no 148)

Why govt. says men and women are equal

Men and women are different, i understand.

But in my mind a question is raised, if men and women are different, then why government advertise 'boys and girls are equal'. This is opposite to each other.

In your mind, you see the difference, but in my mind i can't see the difference.

You don't understand my question. I explain briefly, if science says that men and women are different, then why government says men and women are equal and vice versa.

In my mind what science says that is correct and what government says that is also correct. But you don't understand what science says and what government says. I explain you "men and women should be equal in term of opportunities to exercise their full potential, but they are definitely and identical in their inmate abilities. Whether, men and women are equal is a political or moral question, but whether they are identical is a scientific one"*

I tell you what is the meaning of government says. Government say that "Men and women should have equal  opportunity to pursue a career path in any field they choose and that equally qualified people should receive equal compensation for the same effort"**

Actually in this case, you don't understand, what is the difference between equality and difference. "Difference is not the opposite of equality. Equality means being free to choose to do the things we want to do and difference means that as men and women we may not want to do the some thing"***

Reference Books:

1. Allan and Barbara Pease, "Why men don't listen and women can't read maps" Manjul Publishing House Pvt. Ltd., Bhopal, India 2006. (* page no. 7, ** page no. 8, ***page no 9).
2. John Gray "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus", HapperCollins Publishers, India (2008).
3. John Gary "Men, Women and relationship" 2nd edition, Hillsboro OR: Beyond Words (1993)

Men and women are different

You know, science says that men and women are different, it may be scientific, medical, psychological or sociological study.

Question is rised what is the difference between men and women?

The answer is simple " not only do men and women communicate differently, but they think, feel, perceive react, respond, need and appreciate differently. They almost seem to be different plants, speaking different languages and needing different nourishment"*.

OK, but in my mind again a question is raised " Why men and women are different?"

"This is a complex question to which there are many answer, ranging from biological difference, parental influence, eduction, and birth order to cultural conditioning by society, the media and history"**

 Reference Books:

1. John Gray "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus", HapperCollins Publishers, India (2008)(* page no. 7 & ** page no. 5)
2. John Gary "Men, Women and relationship" 2nd edition, Hillsboro OR: Beyond Words (1993)
3. Allan and Barbara Pease, "Why men don't listen and women can't read maps" Manjul Publishing House Pvt. Ltd., Bhopal, India 2006.

Why everybody must read this blog

 "Men and women are different".

We know very well men and women are different. Then what is new?

OK,  tell what is the difference between men and women?

This is a Child question. In this world, every person, even a child give you the answer.

OK, tell.

The answer is simple, see me and my opposite sex, you will find the answer.

I don't understand what do you say? Please clarify.

Men and women are different in the physical appearance and their reproductive systems.

Nothing more?

No.

OK, tell if male and women are different in their physical appearance and reproductive systems, then how we see in the society some men and women are homosexual, bisexual and transsexual. And why they behaves differently. It means men and women are not only different in their physical appearance and reproductive system, but also they are different in their thought also.

So you must know what is the gender difference between men and women.

 Reference Books:

1. John Gray "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus", HapperCollins Publishers, India (2008)
2. John Gary "Men, Women and relationship" 2nd edition, Hillsboro OR: Beyond Words (1993)
3. Allan and Barbara Pease, "Why men don't listen and women can't read maps" Manjul Publishing House Pvt. Ltd., Bhopal, India.